7:30am is my meeting on friday...we'll see what happens.
I am not going in with guns a blazing. I will be very professional and direct and to the point. I am going in and letting them say there peace, then I am going to go down my list and pick them apart AFTER they laid there weak defense.
I forsee private school. I know once this gets around the teachers lounge it won't matter...he'll be tagged. and every teacher will be biased. Seen it happen b4.
For some reason school systems have this mentality "us against them" not "let's work together". Stupid rules and regs they have put on schools its rediculous.
Its kindergarten not 1st year college.

Well, when I can't come to a reasonable compromise during a conference, and most times I do, but in one case I didnt, I finally realized that perhaps my son did not like his teacher or school....

I pulled him out ....after leaving my work numerous times because they were not able to handle an 8 year old who wasn't talking very much, I simply pulled him right out....

I switched his school...

I realized that I could fight tooth and nail, but the atmosphere of teh school, was generally negative....

They viewed my son as an "underachiever" and that is fine...when his teacher started telling me in January what is end of year mark would be? I simply asked her two questions...the results you get are the results of what you put into it...so if you are telling me now today in Jan. that he is going to get a D in June, you are only going to get that child to come up with a D...and hey, who am I to argue...so why not view the child as an A or a B or a C...well she didn't believe in A's. so I asked her why it was easier for her to believe in D's over an A...what is so special about the possibilities of D's that no child merited an A in her class? My son must have done something in the class to at least get a C...if not, I told her that a child will only become what you expect of him and what you believe in his/abilities...

that was enough to pull him right out..I homeschooled him for the last few months and he is up to par now...they retested him in the new school in grade 7...aside from him not always completing his homework, he is doing great...and I never saw that type of behaviour from him in school again...

I say, change the school. Can't train an old dog new tricks as the saying goes I think LOL

Their perception of my son was so extreme, that in grade six, he did not know how to use a geometry set or long division...it took me three months to get him up to par, with an official test through the board so he could actually get a mark...

end of story? child is learning and up to par with the rest of the class.

SCDawg,

I would take it higher if the VP doesn't seem to resolve the issue. Here's my thinking

most schools do not have a tight knit group of teachers even though it appears as such. (A good school is a combination of various phiolos, methods, and personalities)

The goals of education is to provide (service) the needs of the community.

If you're in a big district, going to the superintendents office may get the attention of the staff.

Keep your complaint simple... "I cannot resolve the differences my child is having with his teacher. He hates school. I'm a widower. I feel like she's retaliating on my Kindergartener who hasn't learned his new address."

Most superintendents have years of expertise and have delt with parents with your issues in the past. (Many have years of experience as principals and I personally believe they wouldn't side with the idea of a staff that chooses to blame children for their inability to manage and inspire children positivly) Like employees in a large corporation... some managers need to be retrained.

What catches my attention the most is the comment that your son is falling behind and last in his class. It shows he's not responding to her instruction. What type of interventions has she tried instead of blaming it on behavior? Has she offered you ways to help your child at home and you find the same problem with learning letters and numbers? Maybe the personality of the teacher and your child is not compatible and he needs a different teacher or he may have a learning disability.

Good luck and I hope the issue dissapears for you and your son enjoys learning at school again.

i think there is lot of good advise here and wont argue disagree with any of it. i recently had this problem with my 5 year old. when inrolling him and having his first parent teacher confrance get to know the kid before kindergarden started i was told because of his age he would more than likely be repeating KG.

ok so what that tells me is that because a kids bd is right befor the last day for regisrtaion that he is not smart enough as the rest of the kids? we had problems the whole first 2 months becauuse "your child just insnt acting his age" omfg hes 5 for christ sake. he doenst pay attention for 3 straight oh no i think he gonna have addd or worse yet hes gonna take guns in and blow the whole school up. (joking)

what im trying to get at is teachers will make an opinion at the beginning of the year (not all) and act on that when they are teaching your child. this is wrong but hey i cant do nothing about it. if i could home schoool i would but yea i have to have a job too

I have a solution to everyone's problem...

we will hire Captmatrix to teach all our kids...


LOL

There is no denying that in all professions some are better at what they do than others...and in schools you will have great teachers, not so great teachers, and teachers who shouldn't be teaching at all...

then you have great teachers working in a lousy school because the principle is creating a negative working atmosphere for teh teachers to work together....and then that goes back onto the children...that was in my particular case...principle had conflicts with many of the teachers, adn it was an internal war in there...that was not something i could do anything about after all the meetings and phone calls...

hopefully in your case it will get resolved .

I'm still not sure what your son has done? There's a lot of name-calling but what exactly are the 'bad behaviours' she's referring to? How is she helping him and how is she creating a healthy environment when she's calling her students bad? Not appropriate.

I work in the school system myself and I'd have to agree with a lot of the comments made. As a parent myself, I do feel that "them vs. me" syndrome. I also get the impression that they think I talk too much when I'm in for a meeting for my son. lol I also think it depends on the teachers. There are a lot of great teachers just as much as there are a lot that are not. Some schools, the moral is so low, I'm not sure how they even get up in the morning. In other schools, staff is so close-knitt, a K teacher can ruin a reputation of a 7th-grader she once had. It gets carried on from year to year. It's sad.

Let us know how your meeting went. I'm curious to know what the problem is.

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Originally posted by Singleparentcoach:
I have a solution to everyone's problem...

we will hire Captmatrix to teach all our kids...


LOL

Aw shucks, Miranda...


Is the pay any good? lol

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Originally posted by captmatrix:
Is the pay any good? lol

yup self gradification knowing you are making a differnece in the children of the world.

have you talked to your son about the teacher? More information that you have is the better. My understanding is that you brought the vice principal into conference but how is going to resolve the problem with teacher. Its still early in the school year and teacher and you need to be on the same page. I personally don't like she is labeling and stating that he is being bad. Is somone picking on him?

Please let us know how the conference goes.

Well lets put it this way, no matter what a school sayz, or even society, WE the parent are responsible for our child's education, as we are for making them decent humans. For too long we have just assumed that sending to school has been the end of our duty, well its not. We put our most precious gift in the hands of people we simply don't know, who have their own agenda. We have a program called wolf here, my girl learns online and doesn't have to deal with bad teachers, not saying they all are.

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Originally posted by Dallasblair82:

yup self gradification knowing you are making a differnece in the children of the world.

Pffffffft. Overrated.
(just kidding!)

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Originally posted by captmatrix:

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Originally posted by Dallasblair82:

yup self gradification knowing you are making a differnece in the children of the world.

Pffffffft. Overrated.
(just kidding!)

Lmao

well...we do have to survive financially..

I think the pay is alot better for teachers in Canada than in the U.S.

I can find you a job here no problem LOL

I think that capt school dist needs to give a rise

absolutely...

teachers here in canada think they are underpaid...I don't believe they are...

if you saw what they got paid here, teachers in teh states would be moving down here in a heartbeat...

I think starting pay 1st year teacher is $40,000 at least that is what couple of my friends started of at when they got out of university and my ex sister in law is now making way above that.