Well, I keep trying to get the father involved by asking to help when the child is sick and to go to doctors appointments and to get extra days to have him. We live an 1hr 1/2 away from each other his choice, and even gave him the option for both of us to move to the middle, so he's with 30 minutes to have the now 8 month old baby 3 over night visits so we can share him when I get the money. The fact is I have no family here and little money to fight him in court to leave the state to get family help. He won't help but in turns wants full custody of the child without me but says the child needs both the mother and father. Then there's the fact the I keep trying to bond the child with him and the father out right refuses to go to doctors even for the child and so when the father gets sick he won't find out whats wrong and wont come down for his visitation. I found out he stills has feelings for me and that he is willing to try to share if I just let him date me but not ever live me and that I would have to move to where he is. I have no money to move and just lost my job again since the baby was born because I have take out 3 weeks since Oct to go to dr. appointments, court, services for the baby, and days off because the baby keeps getting sick with colds. My company laid me off 1 month before the baby was born so FMLA doesn't apply to me until after the 1yr. I live in a house I keep at 75 degrees and rarely go out and take care of myself. My other child that is 4 hasn't been sick yet since the baby was born. I asked h the father to help and he refuses stating that he has a job too. In order to have a normal relationship with him to discuss the child I have to be dating him so I decided that seeing him wasn't a good idea because he's still not making his son first and he keeps focusing on what he wants soley. Then he calls the state child protective office to say I am abusing my child yet not the daycare, neighbor, relative, or anyone has seen me harm a hair on my children and they are happy and loved by me alone. I don't abuse my children and the state doesn't believe him crying wolf either. What do you guys think? I have asked the judge and ag's office and cps to inforce him to go to counseling because this baby is going to suffer. This man only thinks of himself first then everything else. He treats his son like a toy you put away. He says that he needs to think about whether he wants custody without me and I have fight for the child and he thinks I am trying to punish him like a child so he does kind stuff and doesn't want me around. The fact is the father works 16 hrs a day and has a business on the side and has missed 3 visits in two months and he can't even handle taking care of himself. Please let me know.

well congratulations on your new baby ! Last I heard from you he/she was on the way !
But it's true what you're telling sounds pretty sad.
I believe deep down you have already made your decisions, or haven't you ?
dre

Unfortunately, there's nothing I can do I tried the investigators, City Attorney, and DA's office they all say the same thing, "he or anyone else can make a false claim w/ investigators and there is nothing I can do about it but move out of state." Although everyone of them also said to report what he was doing such as any type of neglect which there is a few occasions. Now I have talked w/ a bunch of people and will be talking with a bunch of more to be more financial suffiencient w/o opening the daycare so I can stay home w/ my children. Got any ideas for at home Mom's to make money the legal way please feel free to share. Oh, I got an attorney and I will be talking with them next week. Thank for the congrads.

Hey, everyone who comes across this. I still send pictures to him and even asked him for the "what does he extactly want for the exchange of information and meets for our son." So, I am still putting my best foot forward but I know because everyone has told me over and over again that I would best w/ our son because at least he knows one parent really appreciates how precious he is. I just wish his Dad did too. This is tough and decided to start my Single Support group to help give kids a fighting chance at having emotionally health lives. Oh, in the state of Texas unless the father is physically violent no court will intervene. They think down here that only the physical violence matters and that as long as the father pays child support "he's a real father." I think if the father really wanted to be a real dad he would want the best for his child on everything that has to do with his life. thanx