Sometimes I feel so alone- it seems like most people my age have older children or they are already grandparents. I feel like every man I meet runs away when he hears that my children are still young.

Well I am a grandparent and also have younger kids. My 3 older boys are 33, 27, and 25, the younger ones are 9, 8, and 5.

At 54 I don't see much prospects for me and my 9yo daughter doesn't want anyone cutting in on her time with me, anyone siblings included.

So I think I'm in a worse boat then you.

Thanks- I am glad to know I am not the only one. you have a beautiful family.

Thank you.

Your son and daughter are about the ages of my youngest son and daughter.

My 2 married kids are in Texas, well they are based there as the oldest is a long haul trucker and the other is in Baghdad. My other Army boy is in Oklahoma, son to be in Baghdad.

I am 48 and I have a seven year old daughter. Most people my age have grandchildren. Allison keeps me young though and is my salvation. It is odd and I could see how that would be a turn-off to a man my age. I haven't started dating again- and I don't look forward to it but you know it is a package deal. Plus I have three older children- 18, 19 and 20. I would just be a great catch! LOL!

ellieh, transitions are always tough at first, your daughter is a lucky girl,its obvious you think of her first and love her very much. I have yet to hear any anger from you and yet we all have it,yet you worry about how bad she will hurt. catches are catches at any age any wise person knows things that bring out love keep you eternaly young. may peace lighten you and your daughters way home

Raymond...that was so sweet! (and good advice)

I'm 37 and still haven't ventured too much into the dating pool...think the waters are still a little too cool even though I've been divorced for about 6+ years now.

Anyway, my son is 7, and rarely misses an opportunity to tell everyone he encounters that I'm 30 years older than him. (Yes, i have tried to break this habit to no avail....just go shopping w/o him. LOL!)

What I take comfort in is meeting new people through my son's sports activities, community fairs/celebrations, etc. You get an adult interaction in a kid friendly atmosphere and you'll be surprised who calls who "mommy" or "Daddy". Just keep eye/ear peeled and start networking...if all else fails, you'll have a new friend with a newfound common ground.

Yes that was very good advice Raymond. Today is a different day and I feel better. It is what it is and we will be okay. The tension level around here will go down maybe. My 18 year old is very mean to her little sister the majority of the time, so I am ready to shoot her. But thanks for your kind words. My kids are my life.

well hello out there i have 11yr son and am 43yr no other kids and never married. any clones out there?

hello there. I'm 42 and have three kids. my oldest is sixteen and my youngests are 4 and 2. My 4 year old will start kindergarten the year my oldest graduates. Nothing like starting all over!!!

I love all my children but have a special bond with my babies. They were the reasons that I survived my divorce. Very hard to give up on life when you have a three year old and a nine month old baby depending on you.

I too would love to be in a relationship but find people our age are just about done raising their kids and shudder at the thought of dating someone who has a kid still in diapers. Younger men want children of their own. So for now, and probably for many years to come, my life will revolve around my children. And I am perfectly happy with that!!

Hi, I am also a mom (41) of an elementary aged little one, he's 6. I also have a 21 yo, 19yo and a 3yo.
To Ellieh, my 21 yo is very mean to my 6yo too and I don't know what to do, it drives me nuts.
My kids are my life right now, they all are still living at home. No relationships for me either.

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Originally posted by hollybeach:
Sometimes I feel so alone- it seems like most people my age have older children or they are already grandparents.

Hi Hollyb

That's true in my situation, I'm 42 with 3 kids, 16, 18 and 20 (older one, she's away in the Air Force).

It looks like I'm not the only 40 something who doesn't date, to me its all about raising my daughter.

I have 3 kids. 11, 7 and 5. I'm 41. When I was focused on trying to date and "find" a relationship it was nothing but disappointment over and over. It was energy sapping and not getting me anywhere so I decided to focus that energy back on myself and my kids.

I did some things for myself that I'd wanted to do for a long time. I did some things with and for the kids that I'd been putting off. Pretty soon, not being in a relationship wasn't the worst thing in the world, and new opportunities started showing themselves.

I'm optimistic that I will find myself in a fulfilling and loving relationship, probably sooner than I expect it, but in the meantime I'm going to enjoy my life as it is, and love myself and my children well so that we can use that energy to draw in the man that's truly worthy of us.

Hi I'm new here too and I'm sure I'm not doing this posting thing right due to the fact that I'm not so smart when it comes to this group stuff. I'm much better at live chat lol I am 45 and a single mom of 4. My oldest is 24 and still at home and then I have a 12 yr old son, 7 yr old daughter and a 3 yr old son. I'm posting because I have a child in elementary school, middle school, out of school and 1 that is giving me greif about potty training. Also because I'm feeling the effects of the 'no dating' lonliness. I work full time and my kids get the rest of my time. So I'm new here and I'm really hoping I can find an outlet here. Thanks for reading my post!