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I am a 40 something mom. I am recently divorced and have moved to a new state and don't make friends easily. I work full-time and most of the women I work with are married or live some distance from me. How do I meet new people? Where do I go? I have to children 9 and 14. I don't think I even need to see this person, just someone to talk to would be nice.
Posts: 2 | Location: Oklahoma | Registered: 21 May 2003
Hi, I am recently separated. In fact, my son is with my husband right now. I found a "Divorce Care" group at a local church. Go to www.divorcecare.com and see if there's a group going near you. It's a good place to go to meet people who understand and to heal. Our group is going to the zoo next weekend and to the lake the next. Good luck. Isolation is not good. Hope you find some friends soon.
Posts: 1 | Location: North Carolina | Registered: 24 May 2003
Dear Joshua's Mom, I did try, but not finish the divorce care class. I guess I struggled because I was told that I did not have scriptual reason for my divorce.
Posts: 2 | Location: Oklahoma | Registered: 21 May 2003
Originally posted by carter page: [qb]I am a 40 something mom. I am recently divorced and have moved to a new state and don't make friends easily. I work full-time and most of the women I work with are married or live some distance from me. How do I meet new people? Where do I go? I have to children 9 and 14. I don't think I even need to see this person, just someone to talk to would be nice.[/qb]
HI. I AM NEW HERE. BUT I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. I AM RECENTLY DIVORCED, I HAVEN'T MOVED BUT ALL OF MY FREINDS WERE FROM BEORE MY DIVORCE AND THEY KIND OF BACK OFF WHEN YOU GET DIVORCED, I FEEL LIKE I AM CONTAGIOUS. AND I DON'T MAKE NEW FREINDS VERY EASILY, BY THE TIME I GOT DIVORCED MY SELF ESTEEM WAS AT AN ALL TIME LOW. THE ONLY THING THAT HELPS IS STAYING IN CHURCH. THERE ARE A FEW SINGLE PEOPLE THERE AND I ATTEND A CHURCH THAT DOESN'T CONDEMN ME FOR MY DIVORCE. I GUESS I CAN'T HELP YOU JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW OTHERS ARE IN THE SAME BOAT AND YOUR NOT ALONE.
Posts: 6 | Location: mt vernon mo. | Registered: 26 June 2003
Hang in there...I totally understand. I just made 40 yesterday. I've been soooo lonely and it's hard to make "friends". It's also been hard to let go of everything and everyone from the way it used to be. I need to start building new friendships and dating. If I can ever do anything just e-mail me. I'm in Las Vegas.
Sherryl
Posts: 1 | Location: las vegas | Registered: 05 July 2003
Originally posted by carter page: [qb]I am a 40 something mom. I am recently divorced and have moved to a new state and don't make friends easily. I work full-time and most of the women I work with are married or live some distance from me. How do I meet new people? Where do I go? I have to children 9 and 14. I don't think I even need to see this person, just someone to talk to would be nice.[/qb]
Posts: 3 | Location: Michigan | Registered: 06 July 2003
Hello, I am new to SFV. Thank goodness I found this site! I think the standard response on how to meet new people in a new town is to join a church. I have done that but everyone in our church is "very married". Maybe you could join a group that is geared to your interests. Examples: a book discussion group at the public library, an arts and crafts class. Yes, I am a single parent and I am not dreaming After being single for 10 years without a support system--I am finally realizing that I have to make time for a "life" if I am going to be a good parent.s
Posts: 3 | Location: Michigan | Registered: 06 July 2003
Well said Mountain Town Mom! You are on the mark when you say that we need to make time for a life of our own. You need to be you and not purely a mother. As a single parent, you tend to forget the old you because your desire and the time you put into making things the best you can for your children can be all consuming. If you force yourself to make time for yourself (rather awkward sounding) you are happier and more able to cope with everything, especially the parent stuff. It's hard but I think Mountain Town Mom has a good idea-look for groups that focus on an interest you have. Cooking, sports, yoga etc... I just recently took this route. I enrolled in a belly dancing class. What a hoot (and good exercise).Taking the first steps and getting over the idea that I was being selfish in a bad way, was the hardest part. They are good steps to take. One way to meet people.
I'm a single dad and between kids and work I have pretty much no time for friends. If anyone is looking for the guys perspective on things I'm usually close to my email. Since I work in a computer environment anyway email is the only way for me to communicate with people. By the time I get home, make the kiddies dinner and do the housework, yes I'm a real Mr. mom, at the end of the day I'm beat. I always have an ear open if you want to shoot me a note. bklos63*hotmail.com (it's the at symbol, not star) won't let ya do it on here.
Posts: 16 | Location: CT | Registered: 29 July 2003
Hi BK! You're right when you say that between work and kids there is not much time for anything else really. I too am exhausted at the end of the day. School time you have lunches, homework and all sorts of stuff too! I have attempted to get one time each week where I do something without kids. I make sure it happens somehow. That can be for and hour or two. Even grocery shopping without kids is a bit of an escape. Not very thrilling is it?
Hello. I have been divorced almost three years and seem to have no single friends. I can't seem to find any support groups in Michigan. My married friends are nice but they don't have any advice on dating etc. I lost a lot of friends after the divorce too. I don't want to use my kids as sounding boards so how about you'all? Anyone out there want to talk about dating, kids, working as a single parent?
Allie
Posts: 1 | Location: Grand Rapids | Registered: 30 July 2003
Hi I'm new to this site. After reading some of the posts I can relate to what a lot of you are saying. I live in a rural area (very PA Dutch). Most everyone I know from work (I work as a RN) is either married with older children or much younger than me and single. It also doesn't help that I live an hour from where I work. I would move closer but right now I can't afford to do that and all of my support systems are in place here. My daughter is soon to be 5 years old. We pretty much do everything together. This year we spent a day at Hershey Park and had a blast. Last year we did a 100 mile bike tour together and plan to do it again this October. It would be great just to make some on-line friends close to my own age (I'm 40)to chat with in the evening after she's in bed. If you are using AOL's AIM my screen name is MystryRose50. The screen name comes from my favorite rose called Intrigue. It's a beautiful purple rose with a strong devine fragrance.
Posts: 10 | Location: Berks County in Pennsylvania | Registered: 31 July 2003
Originally posted by MystryRose: [qb]Hi I'm new to this site. After reading some of the posts I can relate to what a lot of you are saying. I live in a rural area (very PA Dutch). Most everyone I know from work (I work as a RN) is either married with older children or much younger than me and single. It also doesn't help that I live an hour from where I work. I would move closer but right now I can't afford to do that and all of my support systems are in place here. My daughter is soon to be 5 years old. We pretty much do everything together. This year we spent a day at Hershey Park and had a blast. Last year we did a 100 mile bike tour together and plan to do it again this October. It would be great just to make some on-line friends close to my own age (I'm 40)to chat with in the evening after she's in bed. If you are using AOL's AIM my screen name is MystryRose50. The screen name comes from my favorite rose called Intrigue. It's a beautiful purple rose with a strong devine fragrance.[/qb]
hi i am almost divorced and am 43 years old. i have 3 children. 2 daughter's 9 and 10 and a son 6. i now have to get a job to support us. i was a stay at home mom for 11 years. he is not making it easy on us. if you want to chat sometime feel free to e-mail me. santmy7*aol.com. i am near pgh. hope things are going ok for you
Posts: 29 | Location: pittsburgh | Registered: 31 July 2003
Originally posted by Jennie: [qb]Hello Darla, Allie and MystryRose! Nice to have you here too. Seems like we all have much in common. Hope you all come back a lot.[/qb]
hi jennie, it is important to have a least one day to yourself. i am thinking of babysitting in my home for income...that way i can be here when kids get on and off bus. have a great day everyone! darla
Posts: 29 | Location: pittsburgh | Registered: 31 July 2003
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I found a "Divorce Care" group at a local church. Go to www.divorcecare.com and see if there's a group going near you. It's a good place to go to meet people who understand and to heal. Our group is going to the zoo next weekend and to the lake the next. Good luck. Isolation is not good. Hope you find some friends soon.
After being single for 10 years without a support system--I am finally realizing that I have to make time for a "life" if I am going to be a good parent.s
