ok guys...what is your idea of the perfect first date?

Do you believe in a kiss n the first date--if all goes well?

What do you look for physically in a woman? You can only choose ONE thing (pretty eyes, big smile)

What do you look for in a woman other than her looks? (sense of humor, great cook, etc.)

What's the biggest turn-off for you?

Ok....let's see whatcha got guys!!!!!

I am not sure about perfect because the first date tends to be a ice breaker so I tend to keep it simple. Say, going to see a show with drinks, or dinner and a movie.

kissing on the first date depends on if it is right or not. I don't think there is a set "yes I will, no I won't"

the next is hard because it vary from person to person, so I am not sure.

what else in a woman, sadly being as the past has been with a woman who had problems, I tend to look for women that are stable, no major mental issues.

Well as to turn offs, someone that won't let me get a word in edge wise, or someone that is way over barring.

First date - not so much what we do, but I would say just the overall feeling that there's a connection, whether or not the conversation comes easily and flows freely, just having a good time and seeing that she is also.

If all goes well - then a kiss definitely to top it off.

One thing only ?? That's tough - would say maybe just a general healthy glow, physical fitness. Sucker for nice hair too.

Other traits : sense of humor very important, someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously, listens and seems interested in what I say

Turn-offs : have to agree with MoPaul that it's a woman who has to dominate the conversation, get the last word in or always be right. Another would be a woman who uses the dreaded L word or says something like 'where have you been (you're who I've been looking for) all my life' right away in a relationship. Coming on too strong early definitely a no-no to me.

You guys are giving some good input...I like....

Anybody else have anything to add?

hey im not a guy but id like to post here on this subject. for me a turn off about a guy is the same as the guy above DONT come on too strong like all or nothing in the beginning! let us know in subtle ways through ACTION GUYS NOT WORDS that you are interested and do not try to sleep with us too soon. i hate that. no matter what about the guy if he makes a move like that im gone you will get nothing but my answering machine for the next 6 months by then i hope your gone too. ha!

Shannon,

what's with the dating questions for the guys? Someone asked you out?? TELL TELL TELL! LOL

Good point dawn, I hadn't thought about that angle.

a great date is one that leaves you fealing where in the heck did all the time go, instead of this was the longest nightof my life.

I like relationships with women who had good relationships with their fathers. Its hard enough paying for my own sins. Women should look for the same things..Unfortunately people with bad relationships with the father between the ages of 13 to 19 give or take a year are more apt to have difficulty in relationships. they usually fall into the, for lack of a better word, catagory, of being emotional beings,those with good relationships with the father are normally sexual beings. while the two can get along for a while, long term encounters are rare. Two emotional beings can cohabitate and live in separate rooms. But sexual and emotional beings are a sure fire lock on frustrations and anger. so dads dont underestimate your role in being in your childrens lives in a positive way. A further note is that many females can actually play the role of sexual during courtship but will eventually revert back to their true natures... I realize that some psycology is flaky at best but I did find this of interest, draw your own conclusions...ray

What do I look for in a first date? one word:

Conversation.

If I cant talk to a particular woman...there isnt anything else going to happen. LOL

For a man...most of the other stuff has been decided before that point, lets face it...there would be even be a date, if hadnt already decided on the physical factors.

Is that what you wanted to know, Shanny? Or did you want to know what attracts us to that first date?

Be specific woman! come on!!

I am with you Paul, no communication there is not much of a chance for a realationship futher on.

Ok..Shanny,
I'll answer the other questions:

ok guys...what is your idea of the perfect first date?

Like I said...Conversation, smiles (with their eyes especially), a positive attitude, Confidence, wit and humor, these are intangibles...that a person either has or doesnt.

Do you believe in a kiss n the first date--if all goes well?

Yes, but NOT with all women....only certain types...and a kiss...just a single kiss will tell me a WHOLE LOT about a woman...and you women can understand that...I know you can. :P

What do you look for physically in a woman? You can only choose ONE thing (pretty eyes, big smile)

Are you crazy? No way can I choose only one thing!! I'm a face person...Big time!! For example I met this lady just today...she has the most amazing blue eyes...and such a pretty smile...and these cute little wrinkles when she smiles. Yeah! like I can Choose ONE thing! LOL

What do you look for in a woman other than her looks? (sense of humor, great cook, etc.)

Is there anything else? LOL..just kidding. I like a woman to NOT need me...for day to day sustenance...to be able to take care of herself well...but yet, WANT me. There is a difference.

What's the biggest turn-off for you?
EASY....really Easy...( no, that's not it..LOL ) Bad Manners...I will NOT deal with bad manners. Simple enough...and that includes personal hygeine. ( Uhm...Dont ask! )

Need any more answers, Shanny?

wow I just read this I feel like a HO

my first response was kiss on the first date 90% of my first dates ended up with breakfast in the morning..so kiss+ more

for looks one thing huh only one right? Would be shoulders held high showing strength.

Other things then looks --inner strength good self esteem, fun to be with so sense of humor and not a slob

also turn offs rambling and messy

no Dawn....no one asked me out....I was just wondering. Full of questions and like to know more about men and trying to see their angles and points of view....just FYI kind of stuff.

now whats the question, do you kiss what on the first date? If I like the way a woman looks and she doesnt have that fixed prozac smile,and has a onion butt its all systems go...If she can make pleasent conversation without bringing up a list of those she hates,this is a plus, for me if she has read more than harlequin romance novels this is good starting point for conversation. other than this you know just regular stuff....

OK I really have to ask past high school.<AKA> adult dating world am I the only one who normaly ends there date with $ex?

Come on I can't be the only one .... someone back me up..I know the girls I've dated it was my first date with them. so I know they do...