Ok,I just came across these "question for the guys" post and they are very informative.Alot of the guys on here sound like really good men,instead of alot of the jerks I know. So.......I'm going to join in here and ask a question too.
----------What do you really think of women that you take out,and sleep with,on the first date? Is there ever a true feeling of "this could be the real thing" or is it always only "WOW,I get to *** tonight"?
I'm not putting you men down or anything,after all,it's us women that your having the *** with.I sorta think though that it means more for most women,or that we're hoping for more out of it than the man is.

Bishop? you handle this one.

LOL ..just kidding..sorry Bro..had to.

Trish...I DONT, WONT, or care to sleep with a woman on the 1st, 2nd or even 3rd date...it's just not what I'm looking for. Call me prude if you like...I've been called worse....even today...LOL

Do I like ***? That would be such a LOADED question. (no pun intended) and, of course!...but I'm not looking to go from one woman to another. Maybe the fact that I was married for so long...and being "with" my wife made it so VERY "intimate"...vs...a "sexual act" for me...that's what I'm used to...that's what I like. And additionally, in a marriage even all the crazy and sometimes "kinky" acts (not too kinky LOL) are still performed with the person you trust the most.

What do I think of women that "would" on a first date? I dont think they cheap or slutty...I tend to be sad for them...thinking that maybe they are trading those brief moments for feelings of being "wanted"...to "some degree". Yes, I know sometimes you just want ***, but ...for me...I wait...as much as I want to ....I wait.

I have turned down ***....on a number of occasions...mostly (at the time, not now) cause I thought that if this woman wanted "me" she must have a problem or I was just Not attracted to them in that way...or at least not enough.

I hope that kind of answers your questions if not...ask more.

I have a simple solution for this I dont ask women out that on some level in my thinking I want to know them in the biblical sense...That way there is no sending of incorrect signals and if by some chance they are fealing the need ....so be it, nobody has to feal bad about being human...I had a women tell me she was going off to war and may not come back alive...well who am I to turn down americas fighting women...I laughed until I cried....if there aint no juice there aint no use...I forgive everyone of you for any dirty little doings you have ever done or thought about...now go and have a good life....God bless the women who shared their time with me... first date second date 333rd date, **** who's on first anyway.....father raymond

I think you guys are in the minority-----good for you-----I'm afraid you may be the last of your kind though.I feel the same way.I feel there should be a bond or connection of some sort,some form of emotion.But,I'm sure almost every woman has been on a first date where you just know that's where he wants it to lead.I admit,I've went along a COUPLE of times,in my short lived wild youth that is,ha-ha.I think about it alot though.One guy though,and I don't know why,I felt an instant connection too,like it was meant to happen this way and we were destined to be make it work.I know,I was alot more niave and really quite stupid.Needless to say,he was a jerk after that and is to this day.Guys usually initiate it first,or make the first move,I was just woondering if There's ever emotion or feelings involved or if it's just the act itself.Sorry guys,didn't mean to put anyone on the spot,I'm in a bad place right now and starting to question alot of stuff in my life.Hope I didn't offend anyone because thats the last thing I wanted to do.

when you go out on a date isnt it pretty well understood that you know this guy probably would not have ask you out if he didnt find you attractive to the extent that he wants to know you well....Isnt that a compliment right there that he likes the way you look...there has been emotions for the man already before he ask you out..since he dose not know you he has to rely on his intuition in that you maybe like the way he looks too since you have agreed to go out with him...act one is in the books on to the second act...we have no more control over the second act than we did the first...you girls are in the starring roles and if you like our show and want to star in it whether for one night or the rest of your lives, you are still in charge depending upon your own passion, and that is where you decide if this is what you want to do or not..men by and large take what you offer its not a bad thing its just the way it is...this little scenario has been played out a long time and probably wont be changing anytime soon.....peace raymond

OK Paul sorry i'm late.....

Yes I like having *** on the first date..I wouldnt' buy a car with out test driving it so why not

I do have a rule if she sleeps with me on hte first date she most likely wont be a girlfriend

But the girl I almost married spent the weekend with me the night we met..

We can all pretend relationships are this magical thing but at first it is what it is plan sweet lust with a dash of desire.....

Love and is she the one comes in the morning when the lust fades is there still something there

hey bishop,once more into the breech,I wondered when you would join the fray. Your comments were right on, there are lots of women this day and age that simply want to get layed too,without all the ballyhoo. Once after *** I had a woman say that was nice we ought to go out sometime or something.....I still have her phone number somewhere....

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I tend to avoid questions like this because I have been on both sides of the fence as it were. In my younger years I was a horn dog totally on the make. Only in my later years do I know what is important(30+), and its not just have ***, its in relationship.

I prefer to wait until I actually care about someone as a person in my life potentially for the long-term before I become intimate with them. Sadly, most women I meet think that's odd to want to wait 6-12 months. I'm just not comfortable with the idea of intimacy with a relative stranger.

I always had that attitude, except once, when in my foolish youth (I was 29), I allowed myself to be seduced on the first date. She ended up being my wife of almost 15 years.

That's not to say that I don't like physical affection, but I'm not interested if it doesn't reflect a genuine positive emotion and is just a "gateway" to lust.