Wow, thanks everyone.
Paul, i red your first post, sounds like u also have been thru alot, and you seem to be a very stong man, congrats.. All you said..is true. I know it was between them, im just the kid, it didnt have to do with me, but it definatly has effected me. Yes it would be awfule if my mom left because of something my dad did, but why would she leave without saying bye, without trying to contact us for 9years? My dad is a great guy, and whatever he did wouldnt be as bad as what she has done by abandoning us, so yes it would hurt if he cheated or did something, but he stayed to raise us, never talked bad about her, and has been the best most supportive father ever, and thats all i care about.My step mom knows him how he is after this all happened, yah hes happy, but i can tell it still bothers him, he loves his wife, and obviously didnt have a trust issue that took years to go over (married 4yrs after)...but i dont think he even knows 100% why she left and thats what bothers him as well.
missabb, im so sory about your brother, its awfule losing someone so young, i went to councling about it for about 6mths, then i stoped and went back for 2mths this past may.. believe it or not i have gotten muchhh better (sad that im still this bad eh) but at least i dont cry or obsess over the what ifs and other things. I never did anythingto hurt myself, but i wasnt living my life to the fullest, there was something missing, that is until i had my kids, now theres still a huge part that will never be back (unless a miracle occurs..which would be awesome) but they have helped fill it and make me realize i do have lots to live for!
Tasha i feel for you as well...the same but opposite sitution (oxymoron,lol) I do love him...sooo much and thats why i want to help, i know i can only do so much, and it sucks, buti understand..or at least i try to.
So thanks to everyone i appricate it!

Best of Luck Kimmie87!!!!!!

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Originally posted by BigBobby:
That'd be Mr. MoPaul. Of course, my memory isn't *perfect* and I'm sure he'll correct me if I'm wrong (and I'll delete all this if I am), but I distinctly remember a Goodbye post from him in his early days.

I wish I could find it though. It's so common for new people to feel intimidated when they come to a forum and see groups of people that already know each other. A link to that post would do a lot to show that even members with as many posts/popularity as MoPaul felt like an outsider at one time.

Lol...me, on the other hand...well...people might wonder how a guy with >800 posts could remain such an outsider...I think I'll let the sexism thread bake a little bit and then show them how

For your information I quit 2, or was it three times, I was not very happy at the time and certainly not used to forums and felt I was being ignored. No I didn't read any of it, like everyone I have change considerably.

Oh being as I have lost 700 post sense we moved good luck finding half my antics here.

700? sheesh...you lost almost as many as I have...

I have a big mouth.

Best of Luck to you, Kimmie.