http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/ Child Support and the Single parents. Fun stuff! Parents can find relief, help, support and information about child support post a question, find an answer or just vent about it! en Fri, 10 Sep 2010 13:48:32 GMT vBulletin 60 http://singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/ http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17198&goto=newpost Fri, 10 Sep 2010 04:51:28 GMT Well after 3 court trials I just may be going for another round.:(
My son's dad out of the blue calls me after 4 years,he lost all rights to his son and was still court order to pay me child support he is in arrears of fourteen thousand dollars and now he wants me to sign away my child support under the table cause he straightened out his life and wants to move on..
He just married and wants to buy a house with his new wife and child and cannot because of the support owing..
I have contacted my lawyer but still waiting for a response,people keep telling me not to do it,and I know in my child's best interest it is best not too..My son this past year needs everything medically and I just cannot afford it all and it makes me cry that his dad is doing this to him..(Braces,eyeglasses)Although I do work,I am only part time and do not have benefits..
I have talked to FRO(Family Responsibility Office)and they even refuse to help me cause I do not have all the information they need!!Why is this my responsibility to get it??
I feel like I am at my wits end and no one can help me..I just want my son to get what he deserves,this is not about my ex or me it's about the child we created!!!
Then to top it off back in 2006 there was a restraining order in effect where he was not to call and harass me or our son and my ex tells me that order is no longer active as he talked to a police officer about it,I called the non emergency police station and they told me that I would have to contact the court house that they don't have the information on file..
I do not keep secrets from my son as he himself knows his dad and what he is like so he knows all about the child support and was crying and yelling in the background to help take care of him,then when I was off the phone I had to calm him down and told him that I was not going to give up what he was owed..In all honesty I don't want to fight anymore,I'm running out of the energy to do it and doing it all by myself hurts even more..Yet in my eyes it's not fair that I let him off and he gets this house he wants and his new child gets everything while my son sits in the dark suffering over it cause I don't have that extra money to help me..
Am I doing the right thing by fighting again or should I let him off free and clear?? ]]> Child Support loves2play http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17198 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17172&goto=newpost Tue, 07 Sep 2010 04:47:12 GMT If all that is requested from the NCP is an I & E, has there ever been a decision without speaking to either party? ]]> Child Support need2know http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17172 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17166&goto=newpost Mon, 06 Sep 2010 09:51:02 GMT 09/01/2010 Declaration-Income & Expense
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09/01/2010 Acknowledgement-Receipt
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09/01/2010 Responsive-Decl-OSC/ Motion
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06/14/2010 Notice-Produce
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06/14/2010 Notice-Motion
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06/14/2010 Declaration
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04/02/2010 Order-Aside Default Judgment
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Sould I be concerned or is this standard procedure? He filed on 9/1 and am I supposed to get some papers or the DCSS prior to the date? I am stressing a bit becaus eI don't know what else can go wrong or what he willtry to pull.
I know Ca. bases the support on a formula so I am wondering if he could put anything besides the 2 additional children on his I & E..

Goodness, I feel an anxiety attact coming on... ]]> Child Support need2know http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17166 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17159&goto=newpost Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:56:01 GMT Can you please give me some insight on how a hearing works. I filed with DCSS so they will be there.

He (NCP) has an order to produce (I & E) because he is fighting the amount they garnished him. He needs to add 2 additional children (his side) to bring it down. (I'm okay with that but he should have done it before it became a default judgement) He will fight stating he neve knew there was an order.

Can someone "owe" based on the filing date even if they were never served properly or would it be from the date they first made aware?

Is there anything that I need to bring with me...the papers did not request anything from me. He will state that he was never aware of a court order...I have e-mails from me to him stating the entire process. He defaulted in November 2009~employer supplied info on hs pay. Would the employer tell him anything....how could he not know?

Thank you ]]> Child Support need2know http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17159 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17150&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 05:45:10 GMT Facts~ California~CP~legally married~1 daughter Filed for support with DCSS February 2009~Opened case March 2009~Default judgement November... Facts~
California~CP~legally married~1 daughter

Filed for support with DCSS February 2009~Opened case March 2009~Default judgement November 2009~NCP filed Order to Set Aside April 2010~Court hearing September 16, 2010.

NCP has 2 additional children with current gf (filing hardships I suppose)

NCP wants to come "visit" me so we both could fill out Divorce papers before support hearing. NCP has Fri and Sat set days off every week and most of the time works 6 days. My schedule revolves around my daughter, 5 days a week 35 to 40 hours total

Questions:
Is there anything else that the NCP can do to prolong the child support? (I was blindsided because of the Set Aside)
Will the divorce filing interfere with the support hearing? (Will judge hold off on making a judgement/order because of pending divorce)
Will support be automatically be retroed back to default judgement date?

Thank you for your responses. ]]> Child Support need2know http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17150 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17149&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:48:41 GMT Hi! I have a legal question. well, its more of a child support question. My ex pays almost 300 a month in child support, which is kinda helpful... Hi!

I have a legal question. well, its more of a child support question. My ex pays almost 300 a month in child support, which is kinda helpful but sometimes never enough. Case in point. I just moved to a new area and was looking for child care centers. I looked and found one that is charging me 475 a month for child care, which is the cheapest I can find in this area. Can I go back to court and ask for more child support to help pay for the child care? My ex doesnt think I can get it since hes just now finding a job and making only mimumim wage.

I'm so confused. Any advice? ]]> Child Support sleepingbeauty http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17149 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17144&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 01:36:40 GMT My ex has been late with my child support and spousal since we settled. We went a whole month with $360 dollars until I got two more checks and we... My ex has been late with my child support and spousal since we settled. We went a whole month with $360 dollars until I got two more checks and we are missing another. He's now told me "his daughters support check" is on the way. Meaning he's not paying Spousal. I'm in VA what can I do? I am currently living in an uncomfortable situation with friends and am still looking for work. ]]> Child Support CherryBlossomMama http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17144 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17072&goto=newpost Thu, 26 Aug 2010 13:46:05 GMT My ex and I have been getting along very well. We have small arguements about the wants for our son but other than that we are fine. the counseling... My ex and I have been getting along very well. We have small arguements about the wants for our son but other than that we are fine. the counseling is going great. we are more open about our feelings and what we our son's future to be like. But he ask a question totally off of the subject we were discussing. He asked "Do you really think I will not give you any money if you took me off of CS?" :shocked: huh? where did this come from? Regardless if my answer is yes or no is CS something to debate about or a thing to convince the CP to drop? ]]> Child Support AamyluvroN http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17072 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17056&goto=newpost Wed, 25 Aug 2010 00:10:34 GMT I'm new here... I have 1 son who is 15. I last saw his father in my 7th month of pregnancy. We were never married. The situation was complicated by the fact that his father was an immigrant. I believed he had returned to his home country (and the son he had there from his 1st marriage, and his ex-wife) as he had said many, many times he would do that. He said he did not want to get married again. He lived in poor conditions here and worked long hours. CSE made an attempt (early on) to look for him but I believe they only looked locally and served papers to some guy with the same name (it is quite a common name) but not the right birthdate.. not even close. I did not have his SS#. He did not leave any kind of paper trail around here (and this was pre-internet). I did not know the names of his relatives that he had here. I had some contacts in his country that looked around and came up with an address for a person of the correct name and birthdate (his family home) and people in the neighborhood said he was there (the year after my son was born) but then left and no one knew where. Eight years ago a PI found his name on a property record in another state and a SS%, an address. I sent a letter there, not really thinking it was him. A woman called, said she was his sister and he was in his home country, married with children. She asked a lot of questions and I asked questions and I had the feeling it was the wrong person entirely. Now I realize she was either giving vague answers or did not really know the answers (about that time in his life). The woman was also from his country but had an American last name, and this is one of the reasons I thought it was not him.. he had a sister, but not a sister who had married an American. She said she would ask him if he knew me (I sent a picture) then she called back and said he did not. I sent pictures of him and asked her to verify if it was him. She never contacted me again. More years went by, with me believing he was not in the US. Then I had a PI look again. Same SS#, another address (same area as before). A history of addresses with his name and the name of the woman together. And the news that he had died (in 2009 ,age 51). At this time, I was able to find a lot of information through public records and people searches on the internet... I could see now that she was not his sister (different maiden name), the American name was through her 1st marriage. And at some point they got married, not clear when. She had a son from her 1st marriage that lived with them and there is a daughter - not sure if his or not. He took out a mortgage on a house... there were court records showing that she almost divorced him, and made a domestic abuse complaint against him which was not prosecuted though he was convicted of disorderly conduct. (I never even saw him get angry, but he did drink too much). There was a bankruptcy file on them, heavy credit card debt, lost the house, had to give up the luxury car she was leasing. Then they moved into a new condo. Still not sure it was him or not, I asked for records to be mailed to me from the police station (since there had been an arrest, I thought there might be some photos). I got 4 photos - 3 were for DUIs and no license. 2004, 2005, 2006. It was him. Though he drank, he was steadily employed. Then he died, I do not know what of yet. I want to file for SS survivor's benefits for my son. It is sometimes possible to prove paternity after death (testing of other family members, or DNA samples such as blood or tissue that might be available, not talking about digging up the body) but I think it's also necessary to prove that the father "notoriously and openly acknowledged he was the father." I kind of doubt he did that... I only have 1000 questions about this and I feel all kinds of things at once, grief, anger, regret. And I feel stupid...he was in the US for the last 10 years at least. One of the things I wonder is... when I was talking to her on the phone 8 years ago, was she acting with or without his knowledge? Did he tell her to say that... or was it her idea... sorry, this was long. ]]> Child Support ksheja http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17056 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17054&goto=newpost Tue, 24 Aug 2010 23:18:19 GMT Ok, im freaking out on this one. Been working on getting child support from my ex. I thought things were going well until yesterday his lawyer... Ok, im freaking out on this one. Been working on getting child support from my ex. I thought things were going well until yesterday his lawyer showed up at court with paperwork that he wants their names changed to his. They are almost a year old and he has never even seen them. Im in California.
Im really hoping this in another long shot across my bow to try and scare me. I cant believe that he would be able to have their names changed when he has never met them.
LSL got some thoughs on this? Anyone else been down this road? ]]> Child Support TwinMomSD http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17054 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16971&goto=newpost Tue, 17 Aug 2010 02:18:55 GMT Is school supplies and back to school shopping thought of being covered under child support? In the state I live in it says "education expenses". ]]> Child Support bchajm http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16971 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16969&goto=newpost Mon, 16 Aug 2010 22:11:36 GMT I was talking to a friend and she said since my ex moved to another state it might be time to do a child support modification. I agree, the child... I was talking to a friend and she said since my ex moved to another state it might be time to do a child support modification. I agree, the child support amount was based on a minimum wage job he had 14 months ago. He now has moved and has new employment. His income may have increased. But there are some problems. I dont have his address or employer information and neither does child support enforcement. Maybe they can search for it, I dont know. And he hurt his back a while ago, so he might use that as an excuse for it not get increased or he might try to get it lowered. I dont know if he still has a back problem but I know they need proof if he has a back injury. I know that child support enforcement reviews first to see if there is a 15% change and if there is then they file a modification. My ex is crazy so if there isnt a change, just receiveing the paperwork might make him act dumb. He might try to fight me for custody/parenting time just because I asked for more child support. I dont know how well that will go since he is in another state and has recently been found guilty of poss of drug paraphernalia. I dont know if its a good idea but its worth a try. I feel like I should do whats best for me and my daughter. He doesnt care whats best because he is too busy getting thrown in jail, getting drug charges and moving to be with woman. ]]> Child Support lilmissperfect http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16969 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16966&goto=newpost Mon, 16 Aug 2010 13:11:22 GMT Good morning all,

I need some help in figuring out what is going on. Let me first start off by saying this story is not about me and my child's father. But it is from my best friend who comes to me for advice and sometimes I am stuck. I want to be a friend and tell her whats on my mind. But then there is a part of me that is saying stay out of it and keep your mouth shut to avoid from hurting her feelings. Ok so here is the long story....
My best friend of 12 years became involved with this guy three-four years ago. He has two little girls but their mother is in and out of their lives all the time. Going months and months w/o seeing them. So they are now in the stage of calling my BF mommy. She has done more for them than their mother. My BF became pregnant with his 3rd child. Everything was fine until early part of 2009. She gets a call from the kids mother saying congratulations on the baby I just found out about your pregnancy (BF is 6 months pregnant at this time) but I wanted to tell you I am pregnant and the baby is your (my BF) boyfriend's. The baby is due two months after my BF's. Two weeks ago she gets a friend suggestion on FB and it was her boyfriend's children mother. As the profile picture it was the little baby in question. OMG this baby looks exactly like the other kids. I didnt want to say anything but the first thing came to mind was Oh goodness that baby is his. So now a year has gone by and her boyfriend is getting served by Child Support Enforcement. I'm thinking to myself i dont think you can get CS if you dont have custody of the children. oh by the way the boyfriend has custody of the first two girls. I do not know what to do or how to comfort a friend in a situation like this. He has cheated so many times and every time he cheats it always end in a possible pregnancy with these girls. I really need my SFV help on this. As a single mother i am starting to believe she knows whats happening in front of her but is scared to be a single mom. She keeps asking me questions about my CS process and questions about gov't assistance. She believes the girl applied for TANF and listed her boyfriend as the father of the child now the gov't is after him. I told her before the CS process began they will ask for proof of paternity of AOP before they do anything. I never applied for gov't assistance so I am not sure if they ask for proof of paternity or not before going after the father.

After this long story is there anyone that can give me advice on how i should approach her if she asks me things again about CS or her situation. and does anyone know if paternity has to be established before the gov't go after the NCP for CS due to application for gov't assistance from the CP? ]]> Child Support AamyluvroN http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16966 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16959&goto=newpost Sun, 15 Aug 2010 06:41:33 GMT The Care People: Providing care in the home An alternative to the nursing home option And much more cost effective Visit our web site for more... The Care People: Providing care in the home
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For more information call us on 01 8085670or info@thecarepeople.ie and one of our managers will contact you for a free consultation ]]> Child Support disability http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16959 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16934&goto=newpost Fri, 13 Aug 2010 02:16:05 GMT I thought my child support was going to stop because my ex moved to georgia but it didnt. I received payments after he moved. My ex got a job in... I thought my child support was going to stop because my ex moved to georgia but it didnt. I received payments after he moved. My ex got a job in georgia so I asked the division of child support enforcement if they know about or have his new employer information. They said no and that they dont have any employer information on him at all. I asked DCSE if the child support payment isnt coming from an employer then where are the payments coming from. His unemployment, workers comp or what. They said that the payments are being submitted by my ex's payor. What? What payor. Whats that, what are they talking about. ]]> Child Support lilmissperfect http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16934