|04-18-2015, 12:19 AM||#1|
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Join Date: Apr 2015
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This week I have discovered that my boyfriend is a pervert.
We have been on and off for almost 5 years. Now looking back there were lots of red flags. I feel like a complete idiot for not catching them.
I found out I was 2 months pregnant March 2014. We weren't together when I got pregnant and he had developed a SERIOUS drinking problem. He missed our daughters first 3 doctor appointments because of it. I'm a horrible person for not ending it there either.
I let him weasel his way in and the drinking just got worse and worse. He dropped out of college, got a dwi, would hide alcohol all around the house. And now I find out he's a pervert?
I feel so awful and numb about getting my beautiful daughter into that situation. I confronted him and he left. I got rid of all his things and he hasn't contacted me. He isn't on the birth certificate so he has no rights. But I don't know how to make ends meet. I don't want to file for child support for fear he'll get some sort of visitation.
|04-18-2015, 01:36 PM||#2|
just an old hippie chick
Join Date: May 2009
Location: In the Mountains
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Re: Feeling hopeless.
You are correct, if you file for child support it will make it MUCH easier for him to get visitation. Depending on what qualifys him as a pervert in your opinion, if it's anything like the kind of pervert my ex is, then you are corrrect that forgoing child support is well worth the sacrifice.
I was unable to make that choice, I was married to my son's father and so he was already well established as the legal father and ____ bent on getting as much visitation as he could. Fortunately, he almost never uses it.
Sorry you had to go through this.
Never grow a wishbone, Daughter, where your backbone ought to be. Clementine Paddleford
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