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Old 10-19-2014, 01:51 AM   #1
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My ex husband has our daughter during the week while she's going to school. I get her on the weekends. The thing is, he sells meth, marijuana and heroin. He let's lowlife junkies into his house and has sex with random women with our 7 year old daughter in the next room. I have submitted online reports to the city's police department, the county's sheriff's department and the DEA. None of them have done a damned thing about it. I'm constantly worried sick about her and whether or not she might get molested or physically harmed. We live about 50 miles apart and I'm on a fixed income so I can't just go to where she is anytime. It depends whether I have enough money for gas. In a perfect world, he would be arrested and sent to prison and she would be safe and secure living with me. I don't see any of that happening though. Someone please give me some advice on what I should do now.
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Talk to a lawyer. You can get a consultation for free, usually. That's really my advice in a nutshell. The rest here is just me wondering out loud.

A 7 yr. old is old enough to say what she sees, too. If there are drugs being used/sold in her presense....
Maybe you should approach the police from an "I know a man who is selling drugs" standpoint rather than having it be about your daughter, and maybe you should do it in person. Did you even get acknowledgement of your online reports?

Why does he have what seems like primary custody? Do you pay child support?
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Talk to a lawyer. You can get a consultation for free, usually. That's really my advice in a nutshell. The rest here is just me wondering out loud.

A 7 yr. old is old enough to say what she sees, too. If there are drugs being used/sold in her presense....
Maybe you should approach the police from an "I know a man who is selling drugs" standpoint rather than having it be about your daughter, and maybe you should do it in person. Did you even get acknowledgement of your online reports?

Why does he have what seems like primary custody? Do you pay child support?
We were going to go to trial for custody. He begged and pleaded with me to let her live there. He brought up his illnesses (congestive heart failure and diabetes) and told me he doesn't have a lot of time left with her and she needs to spend as much time with him as she can. He smokes a lot and doesn't eat right. He said the doctor told him he has maybe 5 years left. I told him she could live there (really regretting it). To note: he was NOT doing what he is doing now at the time he asked.
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Soooooo, why do you think he is doing those things now? I mean it's quite a leap to go from sickly but...law abiding, to regularly dealing heavy narcotics.

I'm not saying you are wrong, just that that is one heck of a stretch!

Are you in the same school district? I believe I would document his activites and then I would remove her from his care since it seems you do not have a legal order saying he has primary custody. Since ya'll were married, you BOTH have equal custody until a court says otherwise, so you can supervise his visits until your case is heard in court...but again, talk to a lawyer and make sure you have documented examples of him doing things that are clearly not in her best interest.

It absolutely IS your responsibility to keep her as safe as you possibly can, even from her own extended family should they choose to behave dangerously..
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Is there an order of custody in place?
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yes, what does the custody order say, and if there isn't one, then maybe you can think about just keeping her with you until there is. i'd be very concerned. can you contact a 'legal aid society' in your area? they usually give helpful advice, even if they can't take your case...
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have you called the local Dept of children and Family? They could do a stop in and talk to teachers and neighbors.
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If I went to the judge here for a search warrant based on information from an Ex it would not fly. I could use the info in intel and keep watching. If you noticed the police watching so would the suspects. The police maybe doing more than you know. They are limited as to what they can and cannot do.
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