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Old 01-25-2011, 12:35 AM   #1
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ok my mother is 37 and she says she is a single parent. im her 18 year old daughter and my sister is 15. my mother and father were together for almost 25 years. and she decided she wanted more. so she has been seeing other people and it been about 6 months and every guy she talks to on the internet she tells them she loves them and wants them to buy her house. we are on housing and food stamps and other stuff she is manic depresive and bipolar. my dad still pays her car insurens and gives her gas money and buys her shoes and all us food when we need. it but it never enough for her. he pays for her car everything to get it fixed and she wants him to spend more more more. and all she does is complain and say she is a single parent when my dad will help if we need him hes always here for us and her. but she does not care. so it ok. but she is disrespectful to him and in return he is to her but yet he buys her stuff. i cant deal with it anymore. what do u guys think. give me ur honest answer
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I think that if your mother is bipolar then you should first look after yourself. It is an extremely difficult disorder to try to understand. I suggest looking at local community centers and seeing what kind of information they have about it or perhaps support groups for you, your sister and your father. You can't live your mom's life for her. She's the one who can make things better when she's ready. Good luck to you
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Just to clarify something Manic Depressive and Bipolar are the same thing.

Is your mother on medication? You can't force someone to get treatment that doesnt want it. But as EO said, most communities have mental health programs where they will treat the patient based on income.

But for you, your sis and your father I would also suggest contacting you local NAMI chapter. (national alliance for the mentally ill). It's a great organization. I know ours offers informative classes for patients, spouses, children and siblings, and any one who wants to learn more.

I am speaking from personal experience that a parent with bipolar disorder can cause havoc for themselves and on those around them, but can also be stable on medication a live a 'normal' functional life.

Its taken me a long time, but I've been stable on meds for about 7 years now.
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My mom is bipolar too. At least that is one of her diagnoses and the one my sister and I agree most with.

All you can do is educate yourself and offer to help her get help, but in the end it is up to her.

I am going to check out this NAMI myself. With all the hospitals and doctors we've been through and to, I had never heard of NAMI until SFV
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Same here. My mothers mental illness has ruled my family all of my life and it still would if I hadn't refused to participate anymore.
It took me 45 years and countless attempts to help her help herself before I finally accepted that all my efforts were doing was making me feel as sick as she was.

Your mother has an illness, but remember that a great deal of her suffering is still by choice. The minuet she refuses real professional help, she chooses her suffering.

If you want to help her get professional help your best bet is to approach her with it when she is in the depressed part of the cycle. You will have little chance of success when she is manic, unless she has a panic attack.
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