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Old 08-23-2012, 01:14 PM   #1
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Is it normal for a step-mother in a non-custodial capacity to insist on being called Mom but from only one of the two children?
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Old 08-23-2012, 02:15 PM   #2
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NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My divorce papers specifically forbid that. Absolutely not normal.
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nope NOT normal...
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Definitely not normal.
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Absolutely NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thank you all! Step Mom says that I'm just being insecure. It's really about respect to me and not cool that she puts my son in a situation that he has to call her that when he's there or she pouts and tells him he must not love her. I know that she plays a role in my childrens lives but mother is just not it. Thanks!
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Absolutely not! I wasn't aware you could make it part of the divorce (thanks LSL) but what your child calls his stepmom should be a term of endearment he feels most comfortable with and right now, that is probably her first name. What a terrible person she is to say he must not lover her and pout.
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That is not right. You are the Mom!!!
My boys have a term of endearment for their stepfather.... I tell them it is not appropriate, then when they are not around I laugh. His name starts with R and is sometimes used as another word for barfing..... The boys just add a little inflection and acting....
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I get all of this, and I agree she has no business doing that, but on the other hand I would hope someday my son would call his stepdad "Dad" since his supposed "real" dad is not much of one..... I would never make it a requirement but I wouldn't stop my son from doing so if he did on his own.
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I think it is dependent on the total situation. But demanding the child call the Step-parent Mom or Dad is wrong. If the child chooses to that is another thing.
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A child choosing to call a step parent mom or dad is a whole different kettle of fish in my opinion. My daughter calls her bff's mom, mom. I have no problem with that. Her friends all call me mom. No problem. But I certainly have never said, "you have to call me mom." And some of her friends call me Ms _____ because their parents have told them that is the way to address parents. Even after I say, You can call me lsl, they still call me Ms ____.
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Old 08-25-2012, 12:06 AM   #12
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Good kids listening to the parents.
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A child saying it on their own is one thing......being forced too is horrible......the guilt trip is down right disgusting.
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I totally agree, If a child chooses is ok, but not to be forced
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Well there's been an interesting twist. The wonderful step-mom became a grandmother last week. She drove over 1,000 miles to her sons house to see her new grandchild and the parents said NO!!! It's been a week and she still hasn't been allowed to see him. The parents say they do not want the drama and lifestyle introduced into their childs life. Wow! I actually feel bad for her, I can't imagine how she feels but my friends say don't sympathize with her. Hopefully, she'll stay there to rectify the situation. I pray that it takes years!!
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