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Old 03-08-2014, 01:50 PM   #1
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Question Just venting..

You'd think, after 7 months of separation, 5 years of game-playing and manipulation -- including a previous 18 month separation .. I'd be used to his "taking" - ways.. But no. It still seems to shock me.

Just one example (if I actually thought about it, I'd probably have thousands more..): he comes today for visitation -- I won't let him take the kids on his own, since a) he lives with his elderly parents, who can't handle their activity, and b) he can be and has been physically aggressive with them, and snaps at the drop of a hat -- but when he shows up, he's obviously suffering.. from what I wasn't sure. Maybe he slipped on the ice on the way over? But he sits down in my living room, and .. tells the kids don't climb on me, don't bug me, don't push on me.. He ignores them, and sighs heavily, several times. That, for the uninitiated, is a huge hint to me to ask him what's wrong, because he wants sympathy. I ignored him -- I'm his estranged wife not his mother.

Then he closed his eyes and stayed like that for over an hour. Not that he was sleeping -- he snores when he's sleeping -- just closed his eyes, ignored everyone, and didn't move. Big lump on a log..

I went upstairs to put my baby down for her nap, and I was busy putting away laundry when I heard him come up. He proceeded to throw up noisily in my bathroom. Gross..

When I came back from switching my laundry over, he's stretched out on my couch, with a blanket pulled up to his chin, looking miserable. I wanted to throw something at him. I told him to go home. He actually argued with me about that, and then he wanted to know when he could come back. As if! I told him he couldn't until he's 100 % better.

What kind of father exposes his kids to nasty viruses like that.. when they don't have to?? We have a 10 month old for pity's sake. Praying that since he didn't kiss them or touch them much that the kids will be fine.

I wish he'd move away and leave us alone..
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Was he sick or hungover... until you said you hoped he was better and didn't expose the kids to the bug, I thought he was hungover.

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Mostly time. In our jurisdiction, I have to be separated a year before I can file for divorce.. and all the custody/visitation/financial stuff has to be done before. The custody/visitation stuff is in progress -- filed for that already, and given his criminal record, I will get sole custody and not much will change visitation wise. But we bought a house together a couple years ago, and now I have to get it ready to sell. I do not want it. I don't want the hassle of being a homeowner. Plus.. his father is our mortgage holder! And apparently his entire family now hates me. Sad..

He keeps telling me he's going to move across the country for work. I'll believe it when I see it, but he is calling jobs out there -- he's using my long distance to do it!

Ha.. i don't know how he could be hungover, but you never know..
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