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View Poll Results: What effects did your post-baccalaureate education have on your child(ren)?
Helped them appreciate education 0 0%
Made them more self-sufficient 0 0%
Exposed them to new environments and knowledge 2 50.00%
They were upset I couldn't give them as much attention 1 25.00%
Not much of an effect 1 25.00%
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Old 01-27-2009, 11:16 AM   #1
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I am doing some informal research to help me make a presentation about challenges single parents face in GRADUATE SCHOOL (Master's degree or higher). Would you like to help? Please answer the questions below. If you want to explain or add extra comments, I'd be happy to read them. The purpose of this is just to help other single parents who are going through the same things!
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Old 01-27-2009, 11:36 AM   #2
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I share an apartment with my mother and she watches the kids while I am in class. Even though I said the kids were upset I could not give them attention, it also shows them the value of hard work.

I have been in school since 1999 with a two year break between the bachelors and the masters I am getting now.
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I was going to do the poll, but one of the questions did not have a correct answer.

Yes, it was hard going back to school as a single parent, but not horrible.

A combination of people cared for my daughter before she was old enough to stay by herself for a couple of hours; she went to a latchkey program, my dad assisted ALOT because he was retired, and I have a great support group of friends that step in as need be.

As for the effect on my daughter, I would have said all of the above. My daughter knows the value of an education. She is more knowledgeable about subjects than other kids her age. But she does resent it at times.
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Thanks to YJL279 and Law Student Lisa for your comments. Was it hard for either of you to make the decision to go back to school? Did you ever feel torn between bettering yourself and being more available (and making more $) for your children?
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Thanks to YJL279 and Law Student Lisa for your comments. Was it hard for either of you to make the decision to go back to school? Did you ever feel torn between bettering yourself and being more available (and making more $) for your children?
Nope.....Was not hard for me at all. I had wanted to be an attorney since I was nine years old. but I got married and pregnant instead. I realized in my late 20's that I was not getting any younger, and that the BEST thing for my child was to go back to school.

I will tell you that she has learned the value of an education. By example she now knows how important a college education is.
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No, it was not difficult for me to decide at all. I obtained a position with the federal government as a student aide and I had to be a student to stay and I was completing the program at the school I was attending at the time. So, I enrolled in college for the associates degree to keep my job until they hired me on permenantly. I think it was more difficult for my mother because my youngest was just a few months old when I started college. LOL!
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BTW: I have now been with the federal government for 10 years.
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I think it was more difficult for my mother ..... when I started college. LOL!
, mine too but for different reasons. When I started college, I was working for the family owned business and was second in command. She lost her manager and was quite frank about how disappointed she was. But she came around and now is very, very proud of me!
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Good for you Lisa! My mom is very proud of me too. I am preparing for the future when my kids are out of college. I want to work in Washington at the Dept of Labor National Office doing something and the Masters degree will help me get there. Good luck in your studies, from the responses you give here you are learning alot!
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My children except that college is part of their future. It now not if i go to college but 'when ' i go to college.

I have not had any family help watch the kids when i go, and i had to take a long break after the divorce cause of child care and lack of child support. child care cost was 900 plus for three kids to be watched. I just did not have it.

I waited till the twin where ready for kindergarten. Then i finished up my B.A and began taking classes online for my masters. I just keep plugging away, taking in some semester 1 class.

My youngest, my twins are now 13 years old and in those years, the idea of what they will take in college is always in their minds.

For example: My twins, one wants to be an attorney to help other abused children not go through what he went through with his dad. My other twin whats to be a tech engineer, [i have know idea where he came from] My middle child, wants his medical degree. That he determined that he wanted while rubbing stretch cream on my belly when i was pregnant with my twins. That was 13 years ago and has not wavered from it.
He hates to see anyone in pain. Now he is 16 and thinks that surgery will be his niche.

Now how will i pay for all their college, that is a whole other story...
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Robin, you can move to GA, the hope scholarship pays for college 100% if you attend a state college. You would just have to pay for books. As far as your son's medical school, I'm sure he would get a full scholarship somewhere. That is why I am staying in GA until the kids are out of college, I don't want to pay for it! LOL!

FL has the hope scholarship too, but it is based on your GPA. My oldest lives in Port Richey with her dad, she got the first 2 years covered at 100% and the second 2 years at 75%. I just have to split the cost of books with her dad right now, the next 2 years will be a little more expensive but I think I can handle it. GOOD LUCK!!!
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I have never stopped to think about it, but yes, my daughter talks about when she goes to college---making it a given, not a hope. She informed me about a month ago she was going to be a lawyer. We shall see if she continues to think this way or if she changes her mind 1000 more times.
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