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Old 11-02-2012, 04:06 AM   #1
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Why Mitt Can't Blame Us Single Parents for Gun Violence

Posted: 10/17/2012 8:35 am


I was annoyed during most of last night's presidential debate, but when Mitt Romney insinuated that single-parent families are to blame for gun violence in America, my blood pressure shot through the roof.

I'm a single mother. A proud one. And Romney's remarks are ignorant, insulting and based on stereotypes that degrade the hard work single parents do every day.

When a member of the audience at Tuesday night's debate asked what each candidate would do to keep assault weapons off the streets, Romney launched a baseless diatribe about making sure we have more two-parent families in this country, therefore equating gun violence with single parenthood.

May I remind him that the shooter in the assault on Arizona Congresswoman Gabby Giffords and the alleged shooter in the Colorado movie theater attack were both single men with no children? Can I point out that Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris, the boys who massacred their classmates at Columbine High School in 1999, had parents who were married? Can anyone show me one instance of a single mother caught packing an AK-47 in her diaper bag?

This is not the first time we've heard a Republican candidate for president blaming solo parents for society's ills. Last March, it was Rick Santorum, who said on the record that single mothers were ruining the fabric of our country by "breeding more criminals."

Well, my little "criminal" just turned six-years-old. Her name is Angie, and she's learning how to count money and tell time. She was student of the month at her school and the top reader in the library's summer reading program. She's becoming a pretty good soccer player, too. Last week, she scored two goals in one game.

I've been a single mother to her since she was two-years-old -- not because I had her before I was married but because her father, after twelve years of marriage, decided he was in love with someone else and wanted a divorce. It happens. Life goes on.

Things get pretty hectic around our house, but Angie and I still find time to bake, read and do crafts together. That's what single parents do. We don't plot ways to break the law or riot in the streets with our pistols and semi-automatics (as a matter of fact, I had to Google "types of guns" just to write this). No, what we do is get our children off to school on time. We help them with their homework. We go to our jobs and our night classes, to our kids' parent-teacher conferences and band practices. And we watch presidential debates so we'll know who to vote for, who will have our best interests in mind.

I'm sick of the cliche that single parents, especially mothers, are lazy, society-sucking welfare cases, and that their children are growing up to be delinquents. The truth is 79 percent of single mothers and 92 percent of single fathers have jobs. Many live off low incomes, but most receive no public assistance. More than half are raising only one child. The majority of us are responsible people, and we are raising our children to be responsible, to be kind, to value education and pursue their talents. To assume otherwise is to feed the stereotype, to perpetuate the myth.

Ask President Obama. His own mother was a single mom, and she raised him to become president.

Perhaps Romney apologized for his ridiculous comments regarding single parents and gun violence in his closing remarks last night. I missed the tail end of the debate, after all. I had to turn off the television and put my daughter to bed -- because that's what real single parents do.


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I must had missed the memo, eh, being blamed for something else I haven't done. Its hard enough getting through life with the luggage I personally created. Am I being saddled with this too.

Is this accurate, are we, as single parents the problem with gun violence ?

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Old 11-02-2012, 09:06 AM   #2
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No, the problem is MItt Romney is stupid for saying that in the first place and all the other candidates that have said similar things in the past. We really need to rise up and fight these people!
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Funny that they point the finger in the direction of the responsible parent..how about going the other way and looking at the parents that leave, don't pay CS, defy their children's best interests all around!?!?!

Also, to specifically point out single mom's, who statistics still show, make less than men in a typical work environment, doing the same jobs; where, again, is the problem?

http://www.pay-equity.org/
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Funny that they point the finger in the direction of the responsible parent..how about going the other way and looking at the parents that leave, don't pay CS, defy their children's best interests all around!?!?!

Also, to specifically point out single mom's, who statistics still show, make less than men in a typical work environment, doing the same jobs; where, again, is the problem?

http://www.pay-equity.org/
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Good point Wood.

I think the original letter missed some points, however. Mitt obviously didn't mean that the single moms themselves were out doing the shooting. He was saying that statistically, a lot of the violent criminals came from single parent households. Obviously he didn't mean every last one of them came from from single parent households. And obviously he didn't mean that every child from a single parent household becamse a violent criminal.

But good point about blaming the absent parent rather than the custodial one Wood.
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Well now, I mean even more specific. Because sometimes it's the custodial parent that is the problem.

So I think the Screwed up parent is more appropriate, Not, custodial or Non- custodial.

I've read of many mothers who use their children, and cut the father out (This affects the children)

And my case, The father (My ex) has gone to great lengths to try to keep me uninvolved with my children.

Imagine the effects on children, they have one parent who is loving caring, and one who is distant selfish. That selfish parent does everything he/she can to turn the children against the caring parent. What effect long term do you think that has on children?
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This made me sooooo mad when he said this. I was raging on facebook. The fact is, the largest percentage of school shootings come from kids from "in tact" homes as he put it. Grr.......
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Ha...ok...good points made by you too Momma.

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Although I have to admit, the only reason I became a single parent was so that Bobby would become more violent
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I have had this discussion with quite a few people.

"We" as parents are not the only thing that influence how our children grow up, or what they become.
We are all products of our experiences and our surroundings.

I thought this article was interesting
http://singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/...d.php?p=337901


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Ha...ok...good points made by you too Momma.

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Although I have to admit, the only reason I became a single parent was so that Bobby would become more violent
You hoping he will bring you that million dollars?
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Politicians talk to the masses in generalities and seem to forget that life is a case by case. Romney and Obama both have lumped groups together.

I am not real happy with the choices this election. But I have to vote against the socialist who left 4 men hanging to die.
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But I have to vote against the socialist who left 4 men hanging to die.
That's a bit of a stretch -> http://www.snopes.com/politics/military/benghazi.asp
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I agree bigbobby...

http://www.npr.org/blogs/thetwo-way/...y-libya-attack

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re: single mothers being the root of gun violence...holy **** i missed that! i was also putting my children to bed and missed much of the debates! sigh.
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Thanks for the post Mother Board. It helped me firm up my decision for next week.
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Snopes is not as bi-partisan as they'd like to seem.

There is a lot more the media could be bringing out about it.
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What an absolute idiot ..... seriously I am disgusted in this ..... lucky i don't live in America
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Snopes is not as bi-partisan as they'd like to seem.

There is a lot more the media could be bringing out about it.
You don't have to look too far on snopes to find bad stories proven true about Democrats and bad stories proven false about Republicans.

At any rate, feel free to post a more link to more credible information if you have one.
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http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2012...ration-during/

http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2012...e-cia-account/

Right now there is a lot of C. Y. A. going on and I'd like to see more of the media investigating and more reporting on this. I am not sure what happened, but the truth needs to be brought out.
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Well sheesh...you call snopes partisian, and then post a link to Fox News?
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None are fully fair any more.


We're getting off topic. I know there is a huge riff in the country. There is so much dis-information and talking points.... I will be glad when this is over, one way or another.
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