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Old 04-22-2010, 12:16 PM   #1
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I have a child support hearing today. The state is trying to make it so the ex's support does not accrue for the time he was on welfare from June until March....I am fighting it. I don't think it's fair that the burden should fall on my shoulders! I am putting my ____ through school and being responsible and this is the outcome?

Anyway, it's before an Administrative Law Judge and is a call in hearing of all things! And of course, I am going pro se Hearing is mid morning pst........I'll let you guys know how it goes.
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That is SO awesome!!! I can just imagine, though.....that your ex must be like SH*T!! Why did HIS ex have to become a lawyer!! AHAHAHAHA!! Serves him right. I think it's awesome you have the strength and knowledge to stand up for yourself. Good luck and let us know!
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Good luck, not that I think you need luck. You have skill! Go get em!
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What!
Are you going to tell me there going to let him slide, so he can think it is okay to loss his job or be unemployed and go on welfare ,and not pay you a penny. That burns me. I really hope you win this case. He needs to help you. I'm sorry I can't say any more.
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Looking forward to hearing how this turns out...go get 'em LSL!
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Can't wait to hear the update..Go get 'em!!!
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Get'em Lisa!!!

, my ex is crying she makes even less money now and her new hubby gave her a new 4 wheeler for wedding gift and she drives around in a 2009 Jeep. I wish I was so poor.
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Daisy, our oh so wise governor and attorney general---in their infiniate lack of wisdom, signed a bill awhile back that suspends the arrearages of those that go on welfare......this is a reputable presumption, meaning if I can prove he made income, or that my financial situation is just as bad.....then it still accrues....I was served way back in October! I am just now getting a hearing.

I really don't know what I am doing. I had to read up on the statutes and Administrative Rules in order to figure out what the presumptions are. UGH. I did not have time for this right now! And I am figureing out how to politely say that to the judge;

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done, order to be out within 1-2 weeks....sounds like he will be responsible for about 6 months of accrual, but I will have to eat 3 months.

He didn't bother to show.........it was just by TELEPHONE...and it was an 800 number........___ wipe.

And now I am wondering why I was shaking so hard. This guy should not bother me at all, but my body was shaking just at the thought of hearing his slimy sleazy voice........
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Daisy, our oh so wise governor and attorney general---in their infiniate lack of wisdom, signed a bill awhile back that suspends the arrearages of those that go on welfare......this is a reputable presumption, meaning if I can prove he made income, or that my financial situation is just as bad.....then it still accrues....I was served way back in October! I am just now getting a hearing.

I really don't know what I am doing. I had to read up on the statutes and Administrative Rules in order to figure out what the presumptions are. UGH. I did not have time for this right now! And I am figureing out how to politely say that to the judge;

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done, order to be out within 1-2 weeks....sounds like he will be responsible for about 6 months of accrual, but I will have to eat 3 months.

He didn't bother to show.........it was just by TELEPHONE...and it was an 800 number........___ wipe.

And now I am wondering why I was shaking so hard. This guy should not bother me at all, but my body was shaking just at the thought of hearing his slimy sleazy voice........
I know what you mean about dreading the sound of their voice....I keep having to SEE mine. I wish it were just over the phone.

At least you got SOME accrual.....I wonder if they will be taking his tax return??
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I glad you had a little win.
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At least you get most of it. That shaking is weird.....same thing when I went to court with H's Dad. I am no longer scared of him or anything but I was shaking so badly that I couldnt even sign in in the lobby at the court house.
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Yeah, it's been bothering me all day....I am not scared of him....I finally figured out that I still have yet to deal with the fact that he hurt DD so bad....I have not talked to him in 3 years, and not since that happened, or I found out it happened. I think it is all the anger welling, and the need to keep it out of my voice and just stick to business.
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At least you get most of it. That shaking is weird.....same thing when I went to court with H's Dad. I am no longer scared of him or anything but I was shaking so badly that I couldnt even sign in in the lobby at the court house.
It's an adrenalin dump. I got it during the finial decree hearing for my divorce. It is the fight or flight system kicking in. Not necessarily fear, just getting ready for action of some sort.
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It's an adrenalin dump. I got it during the finial decree hearing for my divorce. It is the fight or flight system kicking in. Not necessarily fear, just getting ready for action of some sort.
Geez I hope my flight works when needed cuz my fight wasnt workin, couldnt even hold a pen....
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I hear you on that Lisa....I was the same way when I had to go to court about CS. I had a couple of people with me to make sure I didn't fly off the handle in case the ex showed up. I'm glad that you are going to be able to get at least a little bit of accrual!
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I know when I shake in that same situation, its because I am hold down / back something very terrible. The possibility of doing something that would end up as a permanent situation.

Its not me to have those thoughts, or feeling, and it really scares me of what I could do to him, for what he has done to my children.

Maybe searching yourself for what you have stuffed down, so to control it and not let it surface.
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