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Old 04-23-2013, 10:33 PM   #1
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My ex filed for custody in MN before our daughter was born. I spent 8 months of my pregnancy and had our daughter in IA. Somehow, MN has asserted jurisdiction. The issue is on appeal, and the process will take another year. This means there is no order for child support.

My ex filed a motion to determine temporary parenting time in MN. The judge told us that she would not award child support as the issue was on appeal, but WOULD grant him parenting time. She told us to come to an agreement, or she would do it for us. At no point have I ever kept G from her, I have actually tried my very best to encourage one, only to be shot down time and time again.

What irritates me is that I am literally barely making ends meet, racking up debt I can't pay back to provide for her very basic needs, all while he is bragging about taking lavish vacations. I know that some of this is never going to end, but how the ____ can a judge say that she has the authority to order parenting time without child support? Doesn't our daughter have the right to financial support just as much as he has a "right" to know her?

Has anyone had anything similar happen? Is there anything I can do? Any kind of emergency provision?
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Happened to me. I couldn't do a darn thing about it either and our case didn't even have juRisdictional issues. The judge just felt that a parent missing out on crucial time in a child's development took priority and she didn't have the financial facts...... and she said support would accrue regardless since Ohio backdates support. Does MN/IA do that? A judge CAN order temporary support but it is within their discretion.

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If your daughter is on state benefits/Medicaid they do tend to move more quickly on support so the state can recoup some of the costs.
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[/COLOR]If your daughter is on state benefits/Medicaid they do tend to move more quickly on support so the state can recoup some of the costs.
This is true.

Talk to people in the child support office, human services, and family court officials to find out about anything you can do to get child support. This ruling seems very wrong and I don't think we're the only ones that think so.
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yep, same here, every time my ex doesn't pay CS... I fill for Gov assistance, and when the form ask what was the change in circumstance that put me in the position to need help... "neglect of child support" "child support hasn't been received for ????" and I see CS payment before they even have a chance to process me.
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