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Old 04-18-2015, 12:19 AM   #1
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Default Feeling hopeless.

This week I have discovered that my boyfriend is a pervert.

We have been on and off for almost 5 years. Now looking back there were lots of red flags. I feel like a complete idiot for not catching them.

I found out I was 2 months pregnant March 2014. We weren't together when I got pregnant and he had developed a SERIOUS drinking problem. He missed our daughters first 3 doctor appointments because of it. I'm a horrible person for not ending it there either.

I let him weasel his way in and the drinking just got worse and worse. He dropped out of college, got a dwi, would hide alcohol all around the house. And now I find out he's a pervert?

I feel so awful and numb about getting my beautiful daughter into that situation. I confronted him and he left. I got rid of all his things and he hasn't contacted me. He isn't on the birth certificate so he has no rights. But I don't know how to make ends meet. I don't want to file for child support for fear he'll get some sort of visitation.
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Welcome,

You are correct, if you file for child support it will make it MUCH easier for him to get visitation. Depending on what qualifys him as a pervert in your opinion, if it's anything like the kind of pervert my ex is, then you are corrrect that forgoing child support is well worth the sacrifice.

I was unable to make that choice, I was married to my son's father and so he was already well established as the legal father and ____ bent on getting as much visitation as he could. Fortunately, he almost never uses it.

Sorry you had to go through this.
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