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Old 01-31-2011, 08:06 AM   #1
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Whats your take on it? Did/do you spank your child when they are naughty? Do you think spanking is a good or bad thing?

In the UK if you spank your child social services can intervene and you can get in trouble.
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I think it depends on the child and on the situation. And the age too, past probably age 4 - no. I spanked, but rarely, I didn't have to often at all.
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It was rare and only for danger items for example, if they went into the road. A slap on the hand was more likely than a spank and again, for those dangerous issues like touching the stove.
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Old 01-31-2011, 09:44 AM   #4
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I ask because me and J's dad have different views on discipline, he spanks J when he's naughty abd i hate that, but its at the point now where J wont do a thing he's told and maybe if i spank him he will learn, i just cant bring myself to do it.
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We've had some lengthy discussions on this before. If you go to advanced search and key in "spanking" you should get some info on it...at least our thoughts on it.

I agree with those who have already posted here. I am not against spanking, but it would be basically a last resort.
For E, it never worked. All it did was make him really mad, and then he would try to hit me back. So, that was the end of that.
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when lil man was younger... it was more of a pop on his hand or on the ___ not a spank but spanking if done isnt the whole punishment... but it really depends on what it is to get one... more of the danger situations gets a spank other things but if he is hitting someone i wouldnt spank him i would do something else doesnt feel right to tell him no physical blah blah and then turn around and spank him but he response well with "how would u feel if it was done to you" and when he sees how he made someone else feel it sinks in better... if he steals... i take something he really wants and show how it feels to have someone steal his stuff... time outs happen too... i try to switch them up as much as possible so he doesnt get use to the punishment and it still has that omg really factor instead of ok ya im going to my room again... i really like the punishments if u cuss... u have to do physical labor like on a show "worlds strictest parents"... just notice what your child reacts the best with as far as the msg cause each child doesnt respond the same and if it works on one child it may not work on another...
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Old 01-31-2011, 10:39 AM   #7
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I'm not against it, but have never spanked my guys. If J is not doing what he is told, I would think spanking isn't going to help with that. He will prob. continue to dig in his heels. I think you have to out think him, to motivate him. Not sure exactly what he is not doing, but I think following thru on consequences would help here. "Clean up the mess or you don't get to do X" That type of thing.
My ex used to spank a bit. And then she would see one look from me would get the kids motivated, and she'd wonder how I had "control" and she didn't. And that is the key, finding a way to direct their behaviours.
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All the above a re correct. I have spanked, but rarely and for very specific reasons. It is important to remember that in disciplining a child that the punishment is to re-enforce that bad behavior has bad consequences and good behavior has good consequences.

Try this web site for ideas.

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I have a copy of Dr. Dobson's book on strong will boys! Oh, mine all fit Good news is they will not let other kids get them into trouble....they do it all by themselves
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Absolutely think spanking can be used to correct an issue, but as a last resort and never in anger.

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Oh PS, I was spanked as a child and I grew up okay. Even love my parents very much.
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I was brought up and got spanked too, never done me any harm.
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I was spanked and I also spank my children when needed. But I haven't spanked them in such a long time. In the end it depends on the situation.
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I got spanked too, but not with a hand, it was with a wooden spoon. My dad was of the "hit first and neve ask questions" school of thought. Didn't matter to him "who started it" he just ended it.
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I, too was spanked and without any reprocussions (however that's spelled!)

I spank on the rare occasion. It also depends on the kid....and the circumstance and the age. If I look at my daughter with that look she generally straightens up. Noah would not respond well...and Isaiah didn't seem to care what I did! LOL!
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Usually the steam that is pouring out of my ears is enough to set 'em straight. I think I may have spanked Ian out of gut clenching fear one time when he tied one end of his scarf to the bannister and one end to a stuffed animal to use as a seat and jumped over the balcony swinging on it above the steps. He was so tickeled with his wild ride I don't think he even noticed
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Whats your take on it? Did/do you spank your child when they are naughty? Do you think spanking is a good or bad thing?

In the UK if you spank your child social services can intervene and you can get in trouble.
Hitting (and this is really what spanking is) anyone is wrong. Regardless of their age.

The UK has my kudos for standing up for the kids.
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Personally I see nothing wrong with spanking but I will say that it doesn't work on all kids and after a certain age it doesn't work at all. I rarely have to spank, taking away his tv and computer time usually does the trick. But I do believe that some kids need a firm swat in the pants and those that do should get it. I was spanked and I turned out fine.
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Personally I see nothing wrong with spanking but I will say that it doesn't work on all kids and after a certain age it doesn't work at all. I rarely have to spank, taking away his tv and computer time usually does the trick. But I do believe that some kids need a firm swat in the pants and those that do should get it. I was spanked and I turned out fine.
I am a non-spanking believer but a productive-punishment advocate.
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